• (Please assume by "women"/"female", I mean anyone who identifies as a woman, same goes for men)
  • Heterosexual: A man sexually attracted to woman and vice versa.
  • Homosexual: A man sexually attracted to a man or a woman sexually attracted to a woman.
  • Bisexual: Sexually attracted to two or more genders.
  • Pansexual: Sexually attracted to all genders.
  • Demisexual: The sexual behavior of having a bond with a person before having sexual attraction.
  • Asexual: Having no /sexual attraction/ to others.
  • Heteroromantic: Attracted romantically to the opposite gender.
  • Homoromantic: Attracted romantically to the same gender.
  • Biromantic: Attracted romantically to two or more genders
  • Panromantic: Attracted romantically to all genders
  • Demiromantic: Only able to feel romantic affections to someone who has a bond already with you.
  • Aromantic: Having no /romantic attraction/ to others.
  • Transexual/Transgender (Term depending on generation and location): An individual who identifies as the opposite gender then the one they are assigned at birth to be. Often shortened to trans
  • Cisgender: Someone who identifies as the gender that they were assigned as at birth. (ex. matches their birth certificate) Often shortened to cis
  • Intersex: Someone who has ambiguous genitalia that doesn't fit into our strict dichotomy of uterus or testes. Often forced into surgery to correct their genitals at a very young age, causing psychological and physical harm later in life
  • Nonbinary: Outside of the gender binary of male and female. (Can be used as an umbrella term or as its own identity)
  • Genderqueer: Outside of the gender binary. (Can be used as an umbrella term or as its own identity, but be wary of using it as an umbrella term because it contains queer, which some people still consider a slur and don't like having it applied to them)
  • Agender: Someone who doesn't identify as any gender/experiences a lack of gender.
  • Bigender: Someone who identifies as two separate genders.
  • Genderfluid: Gender that changes.
  • Demigirl: Identifying partially as a woman, but not wholly.
  • Demiguy: Identifying partially as a man, but not wholly.
  • Reblog to inform! And if there's any I missed or anything that should be clarified, please message me! Always looking to expand the proper vocab. : )

Sexualities (And Other Terms One Should Know)

Did you know that we invented meaning? We, the sun and moon and stars and children of… men.

I know it’s hard to accept, but we get to make our own purpose in life. We get to define what things mean. There is no pie in the sky idea of conscious handed down onto us from above, descended from a deeper, more true reasoning as for why it all has to be this way. And that makes me scared, vulnerable, and excited all at once.

It means we the people of a more encouraging future for humanity have a hope for a brighter day without affixed notions of a higher law that is neither understandable nor negotiable. The only real divinity is found in knowing that we are all equally responsible for determining our more perfect union of inalienable truths.

I mean, my dude, we literally make this shit up as we go whether we realize it or not. How ill is that? How real is that? These words I’m using to explain what I mean … bro, they were invented by mortal man and passed down the void to brand new life until finally landing upon both you and I.

Boop! Right on the head - a new idea is born. And new meaning for it develops over time. Then suddenly, you look back and we are a different people compared to before. And it all comes back to this new found meaning we discovered, then slowly began to understand a new purpose within it.

Like, for real though, reimagine yourself outside of the lobbying bishops of dogma you needn’t subscribe your world view to less you so choose to be lesser a man from whom you really are.

Awake, black man! Arise a new hope for your future.

But on the real, do it for the LOLs.

The idea of family as this incubator…

To catch you and help you back up after all your fuck ups, over and over again…

Eventually it’s gotta stop, right?

You do eventually grow the fuck up and take care of yourself, right? Or am I just a real sonofabitch and how dare I suggest such?

Have I always been so jaded or did I just become it, and if the ladder well then goddamnit what pushed me here?!

Where did my morality fall by the wayside and why did I stop trying to catch it from slipping away?

Enough of the rhetorical.

You always love your family - always. Never fully give up on them. Reserve a part of your heart to forgive and be there for them always.

But know when you are enabling them of the inhibitions that get them in this spot every time (like a horrible perpetual loop that keeps repeating itself - round and round, again and again and again and STOP IT).

I’m no king. I wear no crown. I don’t have any secrets to life. But I do my best to be my own rock. I know we all need one another deep down inside. And it tears me apart to see the downward spiral we can get ourselves into.

I try and appeal to my sensible heart, but sometimes you have to keep your guard up and stop yourself from continually playing the part…

In this “no ones to blame” liberal cycle where we find ourselves in a place where “no ones listening anymore” and we all want it to stop, but no one knows how to anymore anymore anymore anymore anymore anymore more more more more NO.

We’ve all just sort of grown numb to the situation. We’re all pacing, going through the never ending motions of it all.

And I just want to disappear in all this empty, hurting silence.

Just breathe.

Find your resting place for your old moral compass and let it go if you have to in order to be happy with yourself again. Wash your hands and face with this new you. Allow yourself to become it if you need to.

Don’t be afraid to look yourself in the mirror again and smile - mindful of this new comfort zone you’ve discovered. Collapse your worrying conscience with the ease of knowing that this is what it takes to find your normal self again.

This isn’t crazy. You deserve to be happy. Some things just can’t be helped. So help what you can. Relearn how to accept and manage your grief concerning the things you cannot change.

All my love to the wife and kids.
Write back soon.



  • Dom: This wasn't how it was supposed to be.
  • Lefty: I know. What ya gonna do now?
  • Dom: A man with no options suddenly has all the options in the world.
  • Lefty: What the hell does that mean?
  • Dom: Don't know.
  • *laughs out loud*